Thanks for the reminder that we’re not aiming for happiness but rather reconnection, presence and self-compassion. I think for me the challenge isn’t only doing these practices, but getting caught up in the thought of not being deserving of them- ie not feeling ‘badly’ enough, or comparing myself to others who appear not to ‘need’ time to self-soothe, etc.
Oof. Totally. I think this is where other self-compassion practices come into play—I hope to write about them (eg self-validation, lovingkindness meditation, radical acceptance, etc) in future newsletters. It’s also often a practice of opposite action to shame. But that’s *really hard* during the worst moments, which is why practicing self-soothing outside of those moments can be helpful. It’s usually easier to act opposite, and then you’re more “in the habit” of self-soothing as basic self-care. Which, over time, makes it easier to do during the worst moments, too.
Not easy any time, for a lot of us. Thanks for sharing . ❤️
Thanks for the reminder that we’re not aiming for happiness but rather reconnection, presence and self-compassion. I think for me the challenge isn’t only doing these practices, but getting caught up in the thought of not being deserving of them- ie not feeling ‘badly’ enough, or comparing myself to others who appear not to ‘need’ time to self-soothe, etc.
Oof. Totally. I think this is where other self-compassion practices come into play—I hope to write about them (eg self-validation, lovingkindness meditation, radical acceptance, etc) in future newsletters. It’s also often a practice of opposite action to shame. But that’s *really hard* during the worst moments, which is why practicing self-soothing outside of those moments can be helpful. It’s usually easier to act opposite, and then you’re more “in the habit” of self-soothing as basic self-care. Which, over time, makes it easier to do during the worst moments, too.
Not easy any time, for a lot of us. Thanks for sharing . ❤️